6 Steps to Take to Successfully Befriend a Stray Cat

Written by Alanna Davis
Published: January 21, 2024
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Let’s be honest, most of us cat-lovers have seen a stray walking around and wished we could go over and pet the little cutie. However, it’s not often that easy. Even though some stray cats might be social and friendly, not all of them are trusting of humans. Because of this, it’s important we make them feel comfortable and not rush them into an interaction. Here are six steps that will make a huge difference when befriending a stray cat.

1. Crouch Down When Approaching a Stray Cat

Someone petting a street kitten

It is estimated that there are over 480 million stray cats worldwide.

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Even though we mean no harm, to cats, we might be scary. Combined with their general lack of trust, cats can be fearful of an approaching, seemingly giant, human. Because of this, the first thing to do is crouch down to appear smaller and less intimidating. Slow and steady is the best strategy here, so try not to get too close before crouching. In fact, staying a few feet away and extending your arm is a great way to say, “I’m friendly!”

2. Offer Your Hand So They Can Learn Your Smell

Feeding a stray cat on the street.A man feeds a stray hungry cat on the street.Help stray animals.

Stray cats are social animals, and many live in colonies.

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After getting down to eye level with a stray cat, extend your hand slowly so that they can take a sniff. They might not take you up on the offer, but if they do, this will help build trust and give them a sense of who you are. Unlike people, animals have a keen sense of smell. According to PAWS Chicago, “A cat’s sense of smell is the primary way he identifies people and objects. Cats have more than 200 million odor sensors in their noses; humans have just five million. Their sense of smell is 14 times better than that of humans.” Once they learn your scent, they’ll be able to associate it with a friendly presence.

3. Provide Stray Cats With Food

Colony of cats feeding. Wild cats living outdoors. A group of stray cats eating the dry cat food that their caregivers give them.

In order to ensure survival, stray cats develop keen hunting skills. But they benefit from human kindness.

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One thing is for sure, stray cats usually don’t know where they’ll find their next meal. Offering them some kibble, cat treats, or even better, wet food, can be an easy and quick way to ensure your status as “friend.” They say the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach, and with stray kitties, that’s especially true. Almost any brand can benefit a stray, so try not to overthink it. They’ll even take tuna straight from the can! Make sure you leave their food in the same area each day. This will help them to associate that spot with free meals. At first, you can watch from a distance while they enjoy their dinner. As time passes, it’s okay to get closer and closer as you establish trust.

4. Give Them Personal Space

Stray cats on the streets of Cyprus

Many stray cats appreciate being left alone, coming to you if they so choose.

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As we stated earlier, it’s important to take cues from the stray cat and let them take the lead. Rushing to approach them when they’re not ready can result in a breach of trust. If this happens, it can undo any progress previously made. Cats are very smart animals, and strays can be especially cautious and distrustful around people that they don’t know well. The last thing you want to do is go backward in time, as the process of befriending a stray is already very slow going. That being said, it’s important to never pet or touch them when it’s unwanted. Let the cat initiate any contact.

5. Interact With Them Frequently

A man feeds stray cats, People feed kittens sausages. Problem of street animals. Cats live on street.

TNR (

trap, neuter, release

) is a process that aims to keep feral cat populations under control.

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When it comes to befriending strays, consistency is key. The more effort you put into interacting with the strays, the higher the likelihood is that they’ll remember you. If you come often, bring food, and act friendly and approachable, they’re sure to think of you as someone safe and kind. However, if you take long breaks in between visits, it might cause the cats to forget all the good you’ve done. Or even worse, your kitty friends may begin to think that you’ve forgotten about them, especially if you neglect to give them food that they’ve become dependent upon. Try to carve out some time at least once weekly to visit your stray friends and spend some time by their side!

6. Go at Their Pace

Stray cats eating on the street. A group of homeless and hungry street cats eating food given by volunteers. Feeding a group of wild stray cats, animal protection and adoption concept

In the wild, a cat’s diet consists of birds, rodents, and insects. But they love a tasty human-given treat!

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The most important tip of all is to go at the pace of the stray cat you’re trying to befriend. This rule applies to everything from approaching, touching or petting, and even watching them as they’re eating. As we stated earlier, stray cats can be slow to warm up to strangers. It can take weeks or even months before a stray cat considers you a friend, so don’t get discouraged if it seems like the process is taking forever. As long as you follow these tips, you’re likely to make headway. With enough patience and effort, you’re sure to befriend every stray cat you encounter!

StrategyWhy It Works
Crouch downLooking smaller makes you appear less threatening
Allow them to smell youBuilds trust, helps them get to know you
Give them foodMany strays are hungry, and food is always appreciated
Give them personal spaceAllows them to feel at ease around you
Interact frequentlyHelps them remember you
Go at their paceAllows them to feel as though they’re in control

The photo featured at the top of this post is © evgenii mitroshin/Shutterstock.com


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Alanna is a writer at A-Z Animals primarily covering insects, animals, and travel. In addition to writing, she spends her time tutoring English and exploring the east end of Long Island. Prior to receiving her Bachelor's in Economics from Stony Brook University, Alanna spent much of her time studying entomology and insect biology.

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